Month: September 2006

Along came polyamory

Along came polyamory After two years of living and loving together, my boyfriend admitted that while I\’ll always be number one, he\’s eager to hug other women because he likes feeling sexually aroused when he squeezes them. When I probed further, he confessed to creating situations where he can help female neighbors, friends, or co-workers in hopes of getting thanked with a hug or maybe a passionate kiss. He also writes them personal poems and tries to impress them with gifts. I\’m not thrilled, but wonder if most men would behave similarly if given the chance to act on their impulses. When asked whether he\’d go beyond kissing, he said, "To be totally honest, I probably would, but it hasn\’t happened yet." I argued that his attitude negatively impacts our relationship, and he countered, "As long as you\’re number one, why should you care who\’s number two or three?" Help, I\’m at an impasse. — Main Squeeze For Now Ideally, being faithful means more than lacking the opportunity to grope the lady next door. What are you, a pit stop for when your boyfriend tires of going house-to-house offering to loosen lids on other women\’s jars? You don\’t even have the luxury of hating "the other woman." No, with a boyfriend prone to random infidelity with any attractive female friend, co-worker, or neighbor who has a to-do list, you...

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~ AFTER DARK ~

Alpine 1954 Goodyear Ave., Ventura, 650-1213. Fri.: Tribute To The 80s featuring Pistols ‘n’ Pilez, G105, Hybrid Moments, more, 7 p.m. Sat.: Caliban, Stick To Your Guns, Light This City, the Linden Murder, Fall of Babylon, 7 p.m. Mon.: Isadora, A District of Evolution, Mind Swell, BreezyLove Joy, 7 p.m. Andy’s Seafood 550 E. Surfside Dr., Port Hueneme, 488-9533. Thu.: Steve Hill, 5 p.m. Billy O’s 2819 E. Main St., Ventura, 652-0327. Thu. & Fri.: Karaoke hosted by Richard Burns Sat.: The Mid-town Revival featuring Phat Time Sun.: Service Industry Night Tue.: Scene Dream Bombay Bar & Grill 143 S. California St., Ventura, 643-4404. Thu.: Mini Driver w/ DJ SIN’RG Fri. & Sat.: Joey Peate, 5:30 p.m., Custom Made w/ DJ SIN’RG (Up Front), DJ PJ (Club Oasis) Sun.: 3’s A Crowd, 4 p.m., Kool Karaoke w/ Leigh Balton, 9:30 p.m. Mon.-Wed.: Kool Karaoke w/ Leigh Balton Buckhorn Saloon 2818 Vineyard Ave., Oxnard, 485-6816. Thu.: Tune Bandits, 7 p.m. Fri.: Los Amigos, 9 p.m. Sat.: DJ Sherman, 9 p.m. Sun.: DJ Sherman, 2 p.m., Ron Sexton, 7 p.m. Sun. Wed.: Karaoke w/ Ashley, 8 p.m. The Canyon 28912 Roadside Dr., Agoura, (818) 879-5016. Thu.: The Spazmatics w/ Greg G. & DJ Noel Fri.: Dave Mason, Aspen followed by Boogie Knights w/ DJ Richie Rich Sat.: Dark Star Orchestra Capistrano’s 2101 Mandalay Beach Rd., Oxnard, 984-2500 ext. 569/984-4269. Fri. &...

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~WORTH THE DRIVE~

Supersystem About two years ago, the members of El Guapo decided it was time for a change. The Washington, D.C.-based art-rock trio had basically gone about as far as they could go under their current guise, releasing a few odd albums for indie giant Discord Records. So in 2005, they signed to the equally monolithic Touch & Go label, added a live drummer and reinvented themselves as Supersystem. Adding Afro-pop-inspired guitar and a stronger backbeat to their already potent trademark ping-ponging vocal style, the newly minted foursome dropped Always Never Again, an under-the-radar classic that launched the band in...

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~PICKS OF THE WEEK~

El Gran Silencio Cumbia, hip-hop, rock, ska, reggaeton — nothing is off limits to El Gran Silencio, for more than a decade one of Mexico’s most unique and adventurous bands. But their sound is more than just a multi-stylistic hodgepodge: It is a reflection of the youth culture of their hometown, Monterrey. The unofficial capital of the Latin alternative scene, the city has long been a convergence point for Mexican and Colombian musical cultures, and its proximity to the border has also allowed bits of American pop-culture to find their way into the community. All those influences spiral around...

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