Author: Amy Alkon

ADVICE GODDESS | Aug. 22, 2019

What they don’t realize is that saying nothing in a crisis is usually a bigger blunder — more hurtful — than saying the wrong thing would ever be. Indifferent Strokes My father just got diagnosed with cancer. Most people have been extremely supportive, but two girlfriends I texted about this haven’t responded at all. Is it really that hard to say “I’m so sorry”? Should I use this opportunity to do a little friend house cleaning and demote certain “friends” to acquaintance status, knowing now that I can’t count on them? — Too Harsh? At least when you yell...

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ADVICE GODDESS | Aug. 15, 2019

In time, however, acting empowered should start to feel right. Assertiveness Draining I met a guy, and he was very enthusiastic, calling and texting multiple times every day, almost obsessively. Soon after, I was having a really bad week: too much work, health issues with my parent … just really vulnerable. He said stuff like “I’d never leave you,” “I’ll never run away.” Well, a couple of days later, he just vanished. I blocked him after two days of no contact, and I feel kind of bad. All my girlfriends think it was too harsh, but my guy friends...

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ADVICE GODDESS | Aug. 8, 2019

Interestingly, whether we forgive appears to be context-sensitive, meaning it usually isn’t the particular crime so much as the particular criminal that matters. The Feud Pyramid Two weeks ago, I finally dumped my totally abusive jerk of a boyfriend. I do miss him, but I know I made the right decision. I came to see that he was cruel, manipulative, sociopathic, and toxic. However, I stupidly went on Facebook and saw that he already has a new girlfriend! I’m so pissed that I was replaced so quickly. I do not want him back, but I do want to make...

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ADVICE GODDESS | Aug. 1, 2019

We are clueless about what to say to the weeping person, and we often use that as reason to bolt or to not show up at all. Lewd Awakening A guy I don’t know well sent me a creepy Facebook message with pervy language. Next, he messaged me a bunch of tantra memes — sex as a celebration, blah, blah, blah. It grossed me out. Why would a guy think he can be so blatantly sexual out of nowhere? What should you say to a guy who does this? — Yuck When a guy messaging you starts sounding like...

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ADVICE GODDESS | July 25, 2019

Guys sneer that women are shallow and terrible for caring about how much money men have, while many men would be just fine with dating a starving artist — a seriously hot starving artist, that is. Bilk And Honey I’m a 27-year-old guy. I’m short, and honestly, I’m not that physically attractive. I am nice, funny, and on the fast track in my career. My friends say bluntly that the more money I make the more women will be interested in me. I’m sure that’s true, but I’m interested in falling in love, not just finding a gold digger....

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